What I do know is that most people — both male and female — have felt the way you feel at some point in their lives. We’ve all wondered why no one seems to notice us or want us. But I think the problem is an imaginary one. People do notice us. They do want us. But they don’t show it for any number of reasons: shyness, lack of confidence, fear of rejection, an assumption that we’re already taken, they’re already taken, whatever. I like to think that there is someone for everyone, and it’s just a matter of time before we find them or they find us. We all have dry spells, some longer than others. All you can do is be patient and not fret too much about it. People often seem to find a mate when they aren’t looking so hard.